Real Or Nah?

It tickles me to hear or read other people’s view on a certain person. They go on and on about how down-to-earth and humble they are… When I met them or came across them, all I saw was arrogance, a big nose held high with a smirk on their face. I questioned how they came up with that because I didn’t see it. Later on it came to me. They ACT a certain way around certain people. If they don’t think you’re worth the time they won’t utter a word, and you won’t get the same response like everyone else.

If they look down on certain people, please know they look down on you too. These type of people think they’re better than everybody. You may associate with the same circle of people, but they are all for themselves and they really don’t like you! Ain’t nothin genuine about them…just puttin on a real good front. I use to hate that, but I appreciate it more than ever now! I’m happy to know who they really are! I don’t have to wonder if they bout what they say! I can see what some of you don’t! God made me in the most perfect way…it takes a real person to except me for who I am! Stop forming clicks thinkin you got a loyal team! You don’t! They waitin on you to slack up! As soon as you do they’re gonna act like they never knew you! Stay to yourself!

I know that where God is taking me I have to have a team to help me get there! But until then I don’t want any part of it! These fools ain’t loyal! When HE sends them…that’s when I’ll trust it! #beenburnedtoomanytimes




Can You Afford To Laugh?

I have been seeing and hearing a lot of people laughing about individuals with HIV/AIDS. Why is that funny? Can you afford to laugh? We have all had sex. If you are a virgin, your first time could be your last. These things can come up 10 years later. So how can you honestly be in a position to laugh at someone else’s pain? Yes, some people bring it on themselves. But some of them had no control over it. They were either raped or born with it. It happens! That’s why it’s so important to practice safe sex. I think you should remain celibate until marriage, but some people don’t desire to wait that long. Yes, you can wait until marriage and still get the short end of the stick. That’s a whole other blog. The point is you can’t afford to laugh if you’re still out there doing God knows what with everyone else! You can’t afford to laugh if you’re married, don’t trust your spouse because of adultery, and you still lay with them at night KNOWING he/she is still running in the streets! How can you fix your mouth to say anything about anybody? Especially the thirsty ones that post up pictures every 10 minutes of someone they lust over. You don’t know what they have! They could be infected with everything under the sun, but you want it! Chill with all the laughing! Chill with all the jokes! Because from my understanding, none of us are safe! Your test could turn bad at any given time. Instead of laughing, how about praying that your test doesn’t come back positive. My advice would be to wait, but if you’re going to practice sex, practice SAFE sex. Stop allowing yourselves to get caught up in your feelings THINKING you don’t need protection. That’s a lie! You need it! That may just be the rubber that saves your life!

P.S Sex without unconditional love from your own, with the seal of marriage is absolutely nothing. You’re cutting yourselves short.


The Company You Keep Is Everything

This blog is about dating individuals that could be bad for business. I have experienced this in previous relationships and friendships. Make sure your significant other doesn’t have a problem communicating with other people. I’m not saying that you have to be buddy-buddy with everyone you meet, but it is necessary that you know how to carry on a conversation with different individuals. When it comes to business it doesn’t matter. This level of pettiness has been played out! Ladies and gentleman be careful…you may be dating someone who will have all of your connections messed up…all because they don’t like talking to certain people! I had to leave these type of people behind. You will never get anywhere being that way! I don’t like talking to everybody I see…but when it comes to business, I push all of that to the side. Some of you have supervisors and co workers that you can’t stand…but you talk to them because you have to. You don’t have a choice. Well, you have a choice…handle it or lose your job.

If you are with someone who has a problem talking just go ahead and dismiss yourself. They are only holding you back from something greater. I use to make excuses for friends that were this way. I think back on it now and it was stupid. Make sure you have someone with a business head. Someone that can have a conversation strictly about business AND close the deal. You don’t have time for small stuff anymore. You don’t know who you may come across just by talking. You will miss your own blessing because you stuck on something you did in school. You could get away with it in school. Your only responsibility was to bring home good grades.This is the real world now. If you don’t do it, it will never get done.

Another thing, make sure your significant other’s appearance is approachable. Business minded individuals don’t want to see pants hanging down or an outfit suitable for nightlife. Do not come out like that if you want to be taken serious. You are giving them something to laugh about later at lunch. I have seen this too many times with my age group. Come out of your comfort zone. Try something new. You just might like it.

I’m Tired

Everyday I think about deleting my account from Facebook for good. There is so much ignorance and stupidity floating around social media. I just want to end it all, but there is nothing I can do. Up and down my timeline is a bunch of wasted profiles. I’m the type of person that wants to help people…shed some light on their situations, motivate and inspire anyone that’s willing to read or listen. Because I am that way, I easily become agitated with some of the things that people post. Everyone is free to do, say, or post whatever they please because it’s their account. But why can’t we grow up at some point in life? Why do some of us choose to stay where we are? Instead of growing past the things that mean the least. Facebook has this feature called ‘See Your Memories’. Everyday I look back at mines and I’m ashamed of the things I said and how I said it. I have pictures that I’m ashamed of simply because they weren’t representing me as a young woman should. I see some of the same things I use to do on my timeline today. How do you do that without feeling some type of way about it? I’m tired of seeing women degrade themselves for a ‘like’ and small talk through a messenger app. I’m tired of seeing women making videos of wisdom, but they have half of their breast out saying cheese for the camera. I’m tired of seeing women trying to be and act like men when it comes to being real just to get the man’s attention. We all of a sudden play Madden and Call of Duty in our down time. No we don’t! Not all, but some women lie about these things just to get attention. I’m tired of seeing women call themselves and each other bitches and hoes. Y’all make me sick with that! Every word out of your mouth is degrading! Cussing like a bitter old man that’s ready to leave before his time! I’m guilty of this, ESPECIALLY when I get upset, but there is nothing cute or cool about cussing! It makes us look very ugly on the outside and a man wouldn’t be pleased with his woman cussing every two minutes. I’m tired of seeing women claiming someone who doesn’t belong to them. Get your own man before somebody lay you out! I don’t play that…don’t even play around with me! I have seen some women go along with it…ain’t nothing funny about somebody claiming your man. Chill with all that! I’m tired of women posting up what they do sexually. That’s nobody’s business, and you should be ashamed to say anything especially when you still single with three babies. I’m not sorry for saying that because it’s true. You did all that with baby daddy but that didn’t keep him. I think it’s time for you to try something new, maybe you’ll be able to keep this one if you keep your legs and mouth closed. Sex will get a man, but it won’t keep him.  I’m tired of women confessing their problems to Facebook when half of your friend list is rejoicing about it. They don’t care about you or your problems. Don’t let NOBODY see you down! Don’t ever let them see you sweat! Some things are meant to keep to yourself. Some people will use things against you if you are not careful. I’m tired of seeing stripper and twerk videos. I’m tired of people posting up pictures of their sick loved ones. Why would you want a reminder of what they went through? The memory in your mind is enough. I’m tired of people expressing their feelings(every 5 minutes) towards someone who died. I’m sorry for your loss, but you should have said those things while they were here. I’m tired of seeing fight videos. I’m tired of seeing men post pictures and videos of money and guns. All you doin is setting yourself up. Feds will be at your door because you don’t have a real job. And guns…? Yea, we know you scared to fight. You tryna warn somebody from a distance. Stop showing your hand(no poker face)…it’s embarrassing. I’m sick of seeing these dramatic transformations(makeup) being done. Nobody is natural anymore. Men don’t know what or who they are taking home to mama smh. I’m tired of seeing meat pistols floating around on my timeline. I’m tired of seeing men lust over strangers that they will never meet in real life. It’s not that serious and you need to find a new hobby. I’m going to keep my account open, but I won’t be there like I use to be. I have to be there for the ones that appreciate the things I post about. I have to remember the ones that need me. I have to remind myself of the bigger picture. It’s not about me anymore, but the ones around me. Social media isn’t what it use to be. It use to be about catching up with old friends, opportunity and networking. Now it’s about absolutely NOTHING…just a waste of time. Maybe one day it’ll get better.