The Presence Of A Woman

I can remember back in the day when my mom and aunts wouldn’t allow a man to disrespect them. Men back then knew what NOT to say. Men today talk about whatever comes to mind. They say whatever comes to mind. What do we do? We laugh about it. I can’t tell you how many times I have read a status (from a man) discussing a woman’s menstrual cycle and everything else our bodies go through. Because I am a woman, it rubs me the wrong way. I wish a man would talk to me that way. They shouldn’t feel comfortable enough to openly talk about the changes that our bodies go through. It’s very disrespectful and we let them get away with it too much. Yes we are all adults, but that doesn’t give them the right to open their traps about it.

I don’t deal with foolishness period. There is a presence that I carry that doesn’t allow men to try me in that way. You will always have one or two that may slip by, but you better know he’s going to eat those words. I use to wonder why guys wouldn’t approach me as much when I went out. I figured it out. They realize they are in the presence of a woman. Ladies when you make it up in your mind…? It shows all over you! It’ll show in your walk, the way you talk, the way you look, the way you sit/stand, and most importantly the way you dress. When a boy is in the presence of a woman it’s intimidating. They will be attracted to you, but they won’t know how to approach you. You have to change your mindset. It starts in your mind first.

Don’t let anyone disrespect you as a woman. I don’t care who it is. It takes a lot to be a woman and you shouldn’t allow anyone to take away from that. A man wouldn’t be able to handle our monthly visits. He wouldn’t be able to get through those nine months. He wouldn’t be able to make it through our appointments every six months.

Respect is what we need from them. Make them.


Alicia E. Andrews



One thought on “The Presence Of A Woman

  1. Juz Patric says:

    It all falls in the place of maturity! Until you fall in algin with with maturity, proper development won’t have a place to exist. As maturity helps that foundation exist. Foundation is that placec of identity. As many are blinded: if immediately by inside the home.. the home that was structured from inside the streets where the false image of family was produced!! It takes a great mind to desire to become of the positive things it yet quite see; but still on the inside.. he/she positively sense that underlay of connection. Those great elders indeed who played that positive role definitely instructed us well. As though you have the currupted one’s who initiated the bad seeds! Maturity, however still leads to knowing better vs continuously disrepecting you’re very own culture especially!!


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