I can remember back in the day when my mom and aunts wouldn’t allow a man to disrespect them. Men back then knew what NOT to say. Men today talk about whatever comes to mind. They say whatever comes to mind. What do we do? We laugh about it. I can’t tell you how many times I have read a status (from a man) discussing a woman’s menstrual cycle and everything else our bodies go through. Because I am a woman, it rubs me the wrong way. I wish a man would talk to me that way. They shouldn’t feel comfortable enough to openly talk about the changes that our bodies go through. It’s very disrespectful and we let them get away with it too much. Yes we are all adults, but that doesn’t give them the right to open their traps about it.
I don’t deal with foolishness period. There is a presence that I carry that doesn’t allow men to try me in that way. You will always have one or two that may slip by, but you better know he’s going to eat those words. I use to wonder why guys wouldn’t approach me as much when I went out. I figured it out. They realize they are in the presence of a woman. Ladies when you make it up in your mind…? It shows all over you! It’ll show in your walk, the way you talk, the way you look, the way you sit/stand, and most importantly the way you dress. When a boy is in the presence of a woman it’s intimidating. They will be attracted to you, but they won’t know how to approach you. You have to change your mindset. It starts in your mind first.
Don’t let anyone disrespect you as a woman. I don’t care who it is. It takes a lot to be a woman and you shouldn’t allow anyone to take away from that. A man wouldn’t be able to handle our monthly visits. He wouldn’t be able to get through those nine months. He wouldn’t be able to make it through our appointments every six months.
Respect is what we need from them. Make them.
Alicia E. Andrews