All Children Need Love

It takes a very special individual to love and care for a child that has any type of special need. Autistic children…children with Down syndrome…children with a mental illness…children with a hearing/visual/speech impairment. Everyone can’t handle seeing a child that way. When you bring a child into the world, you want the very best for them. You expect everything to be perfect. Some parents’ birth newborns with complications…some can be corrected through surgery and some can’t. Some of us have been blessed with children that have no problems at all. They can think for themselves, interact with other children their age, and be independent. Would you be able to handle that? You’d be surprised but everybody can’t handle it.

You have some parents that send their children to mental health group homes to live because they don’t fit into their ‘lifestyle’. I know because I was a Home Manager at Mental Health for two years. Count your blessings! Be thankful that your baby is healthy with a mind to think for themselves! If you see another child that requires a little more attention…pray for them…pray for the parents because it’s a hard task. It weighs on them physically and emotionally.

Before I became pregnant I would always say that I didn’t want to have a child that needed extra attention. But you know what? When I had my daughter, all of that went out of the window. That first look at her had me head over hills for her. I thank God that she is healthy and independent. I can’t imagine loving her any more than I do now, but it is possible. If she had any complications I would love her even more. Why? Because it wouldn’t be her fault. It wouldn’t be anybody’s fault. She would still be perfect in my eyes…more than perfect. I would love her harder than I do now. I would protect her more than I do now. That seems impossible even for me, but trust me, I would be even more in love with her. Way more than I do now.

Alicia E. Andrews

 

The Burdens of Our Children

I met a 10 year old girl yesterday. She has the innocence of a child, but her mother thinks that it’s okay to dress her up in tight clothes. The dress that she was wearing was so tight. It looked like something I would wear and it broke my heart. I couldn’t take it. I have to be honest, the first thought that came to mind when I saw her mom was to slap her. But what would that solve? Absolutely nothing. It’s my job to show the love of Christ no matter how I may be feeling. It’s important that I show God’s love. I pray that I get a chance to pour into that little girl’s life. I pray that God uses me in that situation.

I attended a small ceremony for my daughter’s art class and all I could see was the burden all over their little faces. It shouldn’t be that way! They are so young! They shouldn’t be wearing worry all over their faces! The parents aren’t dressing them like kids anymore. Only God knows what they’re dealing with at home.

Lord I ask you to protect our babies from any harm! Anything that maybe going on that is unseen, bring it to the light! Lift every burden that they may be carrying! Shine your light on every dark situation!

PARENTS we have to do better about raising our kids! We don’t have time to be selfish! The kids are here now! They don’t need a friend, they need a mother and a father! We have to protect them from danger! Some of the kids are in danger in their own homes! They depend on us to protect them! They depend on us to make the right decisions! They depend on us to take good care of them! They shouldn’t have to worry about where their next meal will come from! They shouldn’t have to worry about mommy’s boyfriend touching them!

Make their lives as easy as possible! We have to line our lives up with the Word so that we can make the best decisions! God is the answer! Somebody’s child is being touched at home and they don’t understand why! Put your needs to the side and think about your children! They need you more than you need that man! Pray for the spirit of discernment so that you will know what not to do!

 

Alicia E. Andrews

Your Responsibility Is The One Suffering

I don’t like talking about certain things because some people take it the wrong way and run with it. But today I don’t care…I’m not here to talk about my personal business, I’m here to express how some single parenting women may be feeling. I have a few questions. Why can’t you (men) take responsibility for your kid(s)? Why do we (women) have to pick up your slack in what was supposed to be co parenting? Why can’t we make the best decisions for the child together? Why do we (women) have to be the only ones on call because we (women) know that you (men) won’t be there? Why are we (women) always taking our last dollar to make sure the kid(s) have what they need? You (men) brag about your kid(s) to other people…you take all the pictures your memory can hold of them and post them on every social site you have an account on…but do the MINIMUM in taking care of them! We (women) can’t get one CENT out of you (men) to help and make sure YOUR SEED has what they NEED! But you (men) go and purchase everything you WANT! We (women) have a hard time finding a suitable man for ourselves and the child(ren) because they don’t want to be apart of unresolved issues…but you (men) have women dying to be with you, and she doesn’t care whether you take care of yours or not! It’s not fair to the babies…they never asked to be here! They are supposed to be OUR responsibility, but you (men) turned it into our (women) responsibility! We (women) shouldn’t have to ask you (men) for anything. It makes us (women) wonder if you ever loved them at all! As long as we are still girlfriend and boyfriend or married you (men) do everything you can to make sure they eat! But as soon as we break up you (men) dip out, and we (women) can’t get anything from you (men)! We (women) didn’t lay down and have them ourselves! It takes two to make them, and it takes two to raise them! It’s not fair that we (women) have to put our lives on hold when you (men) get to live freely with what seems like no worries…when you have EVERY reason to be worried because your kid doesn’t have a FATHER to be there for them! We (women) can’t be mama AND daddy. A woman can’t teach a boy on how to be a man! A woman can’t show a girl how a man should treat her! The father has to be an example on how a lady should be treated by the opposite sex. Mama can tell them, but they have to see it being done. You (men) have to be an example to your kid(s). You (men) are that little boy’s hero! You (men) are that little girl’s first love! Those kids love the hell out of you (men)!! And all you (men) do is hurt them!! That feeling of a broken heart starts at home! And don’t think for one second that your kid(s) don’t know the difference! They know and they express themselves to us (women) about how you (men) make them feel! They may be cute, innocent, and easy to forgive right now…but one day they are going to let you (men) have it and you won’t expect it! It’s going to hurt a lot worse than our wallets being on empty! There is nothing worse than being rejected by YOUR OWN DNA! I asked my father questions that he wasn’t ready to answer! We are okay now, but even to this day…he has a world of hurt all over his face because of what he DIDN’T do! DON’T LET THAT BE YOU!!